Decades ago I began to study astrology as a way of better understanding the nature of the universe. But little did I know how much one could learn about the nature of a sexual (or in some cases not-so-sexual) relationship from the interaction of the planets in one person’s chart with the interaction of the planets in another person’s chart.
Since we live in such a tightly organized universe, it is very important to consider a multitude of factors when looking at the dynamics of any relationship. Given the power of magnetics, we probably want to consider the possibility of past lives; the environment in which each person grew up; each person’s natural DNA; the individual astrological birth maps, and the movement of transiting planets overhead.
For this article, let’s consider the interaction of one person’s birth chart with another. Most specifically let’s talk about love and sex, which involves Venus and Mars.
After many decades in the field of mental health, we know that many couples have a very dynamic sexual component to their relationship. And we also know there are many couples who started out with a very “hot” sexual component and no longer have such heat. In the case of the latter, many wonder why that sex is no longer there, and might even think there is something wrong with one or both people to cause that lack of sexual heat.
But maybe something much bigger and more dynamic is behind this lack of connection.
If you are someone who dismisses astrology as a new age “whatever,” you might be closing out the answers to something you have needed all your life. You might need the math, the precision of this system to change your life. We so hope you will open even a little window to this information.
Generally speaking, the planets from Jupiter out are fine-tuning planets in the chart. They fine-tune the inner personality planets: the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars. Venus is all about love and expressing love. Mars is all about physical energy, including sex and exercise.
Good sex happens in a marriage or close relationship when the Venus in one person is compatible with the Mars in the other person.
In astrology there are four elements that include Fire, Air, Earth and Water. As you might imagine Fire and Air can talk to each other, as the Air supports the growth of the Fire. Water supports the growth of the Earth signs. So the Fire and Air signs support each other and the Water and Earth Signs support each other. This is an essential concept to understand. Fire and Water do not match because the Water puts the Fire out. Air does match Fire and helps the Fire grow. Again, basically Air and Fire support each other; Water and Earth support each other.
Let’s take these basic principles and apply them to sexual connections. Good connections are probably obvious, because the energy to have sex is just present. But what is often confusing is relationships that start out “Hot” and then seem to go cold. And in these cases, people tend to blame themselves or each other, and feel like something is wrong.
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For example, Jane has her Venus in Scorpio which is a Water sign. Jake has his Venus in Cancer which is also a Water sign. So this is a couple who experience love for each other, meaning Venus to Venus or Water to Water. For good sex to happen Jane’s Venus must be compatible with Jake’s Mars. So we are looking for signs that are either Fire to Air, or Earth to Water. But Jake’s Mars is in Gemini which is an Air Sign and Jane’s Mars is in Sagittarius which is a Fire Sign. The Mars Signs are very compatible with each other. And this is a couple who can take long walks or even run marathons, because they are well-connected in this place where physical exercise meets.
However, this same couple has limited connections when it comes to ongoing sex. If we look at Jane’s Venus and we look at how her Venus connects with Jake’s Mars, we can see that Venus in Scorpio which is Water cannot connect to Jake’s Mars in Gemini which is Air. And if we look at Jake’s Venus in Cancer which is Water and connect that to Jane’s Mars which is Sagittarius, Fire, we can see they again do not match. In fact Jake’s Water puts out Jane’s Fire.
There is nothing wrong with either of these people. They are both perfect as they are. They just have energies that do not match sexually. What might help them find each other are planets moving over head (transiting planets) and talking to each of their birth charts to give them the feeling they connect sexually, much like when they met.
The amazing thing about this couple is that they have great Venus to Venus connections. Venus is all about LOVE so they feel in love. And they have okay Mars to Mars connections so they like to exercise together, take long walks.
What is wonderful about this information is that maybe we can release some couples from blaming themselves for the sex they once had that is now missing. Nothing is Random here. Everything is ORGANIZED!!!!
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